EMPOWERING YOUNG MEN TO LEAD AND TO THRIVE
THE IRON ROD UNCONVENTIONAL METHOD OF DISCIPLINARY MEASURES FOR MALE YOUTH. A GANGS, DRUGS AND CRIME TERMINATION PLAN. 2025
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Restoring love and respect in our homes and communities. The lack of love and respect is a disgrace to every one of us.This book was written to turn the tide of change in people's lives and to reverse the cycles of young men being misled into to gangs, guns, drugs, crime and violence.The Iron Rod book's goal is to unite parents, guardians, and everyone in leadership roles together. Re establishing parent's leadership rights, roles and responsibilities as the authority figures in their homes to guide children correctly. Good character must be taught to children starting when they are very young and teachable. Real leadership starts from the top down, not the other way around. One love United Coast to Coast Enterprise stands with parent's rights, roles and responsibilities as leaders in their homes and communities. Let us begin coming together as leaders and as a community and stop, fast money, gangs, guns, drugs, crime and violence from luring young men down those dead end streets. New leadership starts with people like you and I coming together and speaking up. let's begin reversing the vicious cycles of hatred and disrespect. Let's speak the truth about our own misconceptions and end the facades of glorifying ignorance and self-defeat. Let us save our children from self-destruction.
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Some of the wisest words ever spoken are, "if you spare the Rod, you spoil the child," but the one who loves their child is diligent to discipline them.
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I want to give all of the glory and all of the honor and all of the praise to God, and acknowledge that I am still here because of his love, mercy and grace.
Author: Gilbert Earl Wainwright
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The utmost love and respect to my big sister Angela Wainwright Bolder. My chief aim right now for this book is to show the generations behind me the right ways to succeed. Because I can see it now by looking back. Exactly where I was headed to. If I had not been struck down by that aneurysm in my brain on No ember 22nd of 1993. "Rest in Peace", Angela and thank you for all of your love and respect for me. I miss you. I devoted my entire life to my family and helping Jeanette to take care of our kids. I am 65 years old now. 32 years have passed since I got back from that dreadful prison in Northern California called Pelican Bay Security housing unit. We all called it, "the end of the world" because it was so far away from Los Angeles that nobody would be coming to visit. I made it back from to be able to help my wife and be there for my kids. Angela all of the Kid's who, I sacrificed my life for don't even acknowledge a day of my love and commitment to them. They don't acknowledge that I fed and took care of them, all of the days when I went to parent teacher conference meetings and school all different kind of school events and extra curriculum activities. I stayed home and took care of them and I took them to church every weekend. I worked my ass off and Jeanette did too, to pay the bills and to buy clothes and make sure the family had everything we needed. I represented my family like a real man is supposed to, and for 12 years straight I worked and came straight home, to pick up wherever I had to. To protect and provide for my family. I was cleaning the house up after all of them and washing their clothes, helping them in anyway I could to grow up and to be successful people in their lives. I stood shoulder to shoulder right beside Jeanette and we both worked and went to school to get our higher educations, so we could provide a better life for ourselves and our family. We did it, we bought our kids that house with the white picket fence. I have to give the credit for my devotion of taking care of the kids to Jeanette's mother. Mrs. Pettigrew, my 2nd. Mom, she was the only other lady who I called mom all the time. I loved her because she was a good mother to Jeanette and a good grandmother to my kids. She is responsible for my decision to be so dedicated to helping Jeanette with our kids, because after I came home from the pin in 1993. I had that aneurysm in my brain in less than 2 months, after I came back home. You know the story, but after I finally made it back home from the hospitals and the rehabilitation center center and the transitional living facility, I was still disabled. I remember Mrs. Pettigrew coming to visit us in las Vegas from LA . I said to her, " mom I don't know what I'm going to do I'm like this" . Mrs Pettigrew, said " just help with the kids". And I took those words and made them my life mission. But I exceeded my own expectations and came back from that disability and became a bread winner and a dedicated father who helped with our kids from sun up until sundown every day. I wanted to be the father to them that I didn't have as a child, so I loved being a Mr. Mom. The kid's say I was mean, because I would discipline them, and I kept a close supervision and I took them all to church every Sunday and they had to go to Sunday school classes. They also attended all of the churches children's events. When I had to give them swats to make sure they didn't think they could be rude and disrespectful or disobedient without consequences. I would take it easy on them. I never over did it on any of them and made sure only to swat using my belt, not like we had to deal with back in the days. Those old fashioned ass whippings where anything goes. I made sure to only swat my kids on their behinds, and I honestly never gave anyone more than 4 swats because I didn't see the point. I didn't want to abuse them. 3 swats on the backside was the enough to make my point. 4 swats was for extra tough messaging and some disciplinary measures that call for the extra . I took it easy on my kids because of a decision that I made a long time ago, not to whip my kids like mom whipped us when I was a kid with switches, extension cords, shoes, belts and even the hot wheels tracks too. You know the drills; and the famous line mom use to say to us when we cried. "Shut up before I give you something to really cry about. Mom gave those country style butt whippings and I appreciate her love for me now. I understand, but I promised myself not to do my kids like that and I didn't do it. Mom made us tough. Mom grew up in the country side of Missouri by the Mississippi river where children knew there place. My kids think they had it hard and when I tell them they didn't have it hard but they had it easy. They all disagree, but I know they did. My 5 kids were the most well behaved children in the church, at West Oakey and at Shadow Hills Church here in Las Vegas. Jeanette and I had friends who would give us praise and complement our kids behavior all of the time. People would walk up to us and tell us how well behaved our children were, and I was proud of them. Especially Rolan. But because of a lack of people like you in his life. He decided that he wanted to be grown at 16 years old. He got a girl pregnant who he went to highschool with and decided to move out of the house with us and run off with her to her mother's house and we did not know where they lived. Jeanette and drove around in Henderson looking and calling the people's house to no avail until we finally gave up looking for him. Rolan Michael had left and disappeared and didn't plan on coming back home. Next he dropped out of school and got a job. Then he rented his own apartment with the girl and their little baby boy they named Shawn Wainwright. He is 18 years old now, half Filipino and half black American like me, I think the girls mother helped them to rent the apartment because he was still only 16. Unfortunately my son made a mistake that he will not acknowledge. His mistake was not coming back home and finishing high school. He eventually quit the job and did a crime, he got caught and arrested for a home invasion robbery and was sent to prison for awhile. His girlfriend turned into a dike first, and then she turned on him. He came to live with me andy wife Tammy.She was this Mexican chic who I married because I thought she was just who I needed until she wasn't. I dropped that broad like a dirty penny. I heard that Rolan's girlfriend told my grandson, "nigger's always go to jail". She had deserted Rolan while he was locked up in prison. No loyalty at all, and then after he came home. She kept his son from him for years. Rolan's mother was opposing him too, but I stood up for him and I turned against anybody who stood against my son. From Jeamette on down to his turned dike old girlfriend. I stood up for him against anybody who disrespected his name. When he got released from doing his time he came to stay with me and my new wife Tammy. and we helped him to get on his feet, but he went right for about 30 days. and then he got mixed up into the street life and moved out he quit his job and got into the street life. You know what's the worst part about that whole thing? Jeanette and I went to bring him back home after he was gone for 3 days after he left because he didn't want to take a spanking, but he hid from us at the girls house but if he would have came back home and lived by the house rules, non of his problems would have even started. Kimberly and mom and his girlfriends mother helped him to avoid us for weeks before he surfaced again. Angela I didn't have nobody in my corner except my wife and she was taking care of Rolan like he was her own son I was glad I had her helping me because she had a lot of money back then from an inheritance and I was all in anything I wanted I could just mention it, so when I told her Rolan needed some money in jail and a package. She was glad to help him and when he came home she opened the door for him and let him drive her car too, she was a good catch for awhile until I let her son move in with us and Rolan from his father's house after we had already sent him back to his father's house once because he was too disrespectful to his mother for me, but he was whining to his mother about how his father was treating him and she wanted to let him come back to live with us. Rolan was on a good track to be a lawyer or someone very important. He is a genius just like me. Kimberly told him that he could be emancipated and mom was co-signing everything her little bundle of joy told my son. Instead of telling him to go back home and your parents love you. I didn't give up on him. I still haven't but he is going farther and farther into the bullshit. I finally decided to cut him a loose. I just pray for him. Angela the boy just recently went off on me on the phone. He called me all out of my name and told me that I haven't done nothing for him. I swear. I reached my boiling point. I don't have a car right now so I couldn't go and whip his behind. I'm glad I couldn't get to him because that wasn't the right response. and after a good night's sleep my mind was changed . I cooled off and prayed about it. I decided to just stay away from him and pray for him and demand that he stays away from me. From day one Jeanette and I I tried to help him to get back on the right track at a school and to get his high school diploma, despite his decision to be grown and out on his own. I drove him down to the continuation education school, and paid them 35 dollars for it, but he dropped out of that GED program and he didn't follow through on that. Anyway, "it's all good", because God is still on the throne, and God is still in control. Rolan will be alright, he just got mixed up with the wrong crowds and now he has to learn his own life lessons. Like we all do. I love you Angela and I wish that you were here, but it's like you are here in my heart always. Jeanette is a big disappointment, because despite our divorce and my acceptance of mom and Kim's betrayal of me for her and the kids. Moma has gotten old and disabled. I asked Jeanette to go by and say hi to mom and let her know that she still loves her and then I told her "mom might not be around much longer" and Jeanette never even responded. I still love Jeanette as the mother of our kids and my old best friend. I give her all of the respect for all she has done with me and our 5 kids, , but that was her last time disrespecting mom. I gave Jeanette a 500 thousand dollar promissory note that I mailed to her back in 2019 before she got married to her newest boyfriend Matthew just to ensure that she is compensated for being my loyal wife and a great mother to our kids for 19 years. Now that is written down on legal paperwork it lis just like I put it in stone. I notarized the note and sent it to Jeanette at our old house on Anchorman way first class mail. Angela I don't have no doubt that my mission is to show our next generation of young men who grew up just like I did and represent those same values and principles that I represented a better way. i have learned that sacrificing my life for kids was over rated, but I guess that I haven't really learned because I am still trying to help black kids in the all of these segregated areas across the country. I remember why I left Jeanette 19 years ago because she said to me, "just worry about our kids", don't try to save the world. I felt like as a Christian who had been so blessed and been studying in the church for 12 years that I wanted to go out and help people who were just like me. Those are my people. I told her that was not how it goes and I gave her the house and everything in it. I left her to go and help black American people specifically the young men from being misguided and misled and played on. I can tell anyone that I saw people claiming to be Crips and misleading the youth and I boiled over. I was the real mc coy and I know how the original Crips operated. The people claiming to be were not it. I decided to follow my heart. This book is the final result of my mission. I have just realized that if a parent doesn't praise their own selves. "Very few other people will", especially their children. Those people like you are rare jewels. Like my old friend Jerry " Black dog" Wilborn use to say, " a friend is like a rare jewel if you should ever find one treasure it". I got this Angela, thank you for being who you use to be because of you, I can cook like a chef today, you always had my back whether I was right or wrong, you wouldn't throw me to the wolves, you would tell me the truth and check me when I was wrong and I responded that, but you didn't take others side against me like these people left behind do on a regular. These ungrateful kid's and selfish people don't define me and cannot define me because I know who I am. I am respected from LA to San Francisco Bay. On the streets and in the jails I never punked out. I am a man 100% Wainwright uncut. My character is righteous and I am not letting anybody ruin my self-image. I will lead by my examples and I am never going to give up on making my dreams my reality for myself not for the people I love. I have encountered a lot of detractors since 2006 when I decided to go back to Los Angeles and stop gangs from hating and killing each other over street names and numbers. Drugs and material things, but I didn't stop. Angela they can watch my smoke. Like my friend Goonie use to say " it's mind over matter, if you don't mind it don't matter". I have learned that if we waited for people to validate us, we would probably die waiting on someone else to give us what we could have given to ourselves, and fail to live up to our own potentials. In a life that we could have succeeded in , but did not see our own worth ,so we could fail. I believe the most valuable opinion is the opinion of oneself and if I don't give myself the praise and the credit or the appreciation that I want and I deserve? I won't get it, unless I have someone like you around to encourage me and cheer me on. I have a few other people who really love me, for me. and care about me and have cheered me on. I got mom, and Wendell, and Babs too but that's about it. Thomas " Mad Rock" Wainwright use to say, " be true to yourself", don't try to bullshit me". Again I love you Angela and I miss you with all of my heart. I always tell mom and anybody else who is close to me that you would never turn on me and fraternize with my haters like so many people I love have done. I miss you Angela. I miss Thomas too rest in peace. He knows I beat that niggas ass who killed him. The thought of our mother losing 2 sons, by me taking that man out right there in the Inglewood court house holding tank in front of 40 people, stopped me from taking him out. Because I didn't want to hurt mom any worse than she was already feeling that her oldest son got gun down with 5 bullets and died in Daniel Freeman hospital because he was shot in the head and brain dead. Angela I could have finished him off and been fine going to the prison to hang out with Johnny boy and some of my old friends but I think God must have sent an angel to speak to me that day because the thought just popped into my mind. " Your mother is going to lose two sons". Before that voice spoke to me, all I could hear were so many other inmates in the holding tank who were yelling and telling me that the man was dying and to stop choking him. I remember someone yelling out that," his face is turning purple". I yell out back , " f*CK this nigga". I'm going to make this life count Angela, no matter how many people love me for who I am, or not. I am going be me, I am not worried about what people think about me and I am just going to be myself, it took me 12 years of church before I really decided to accept myself for who I am, but I finally made it. The biggest obstacle to my success out here was overcoming the negative unworthy messages that this society puts on people like me but I overcame it all and succeeded despite those lies. God is a miracle worker. My love and respect to everyone at West Oakey Baptist Church and especially pastor Michael Lynn Rochelle and pastor Ed Abaduski, Gordon Cartwright and my Sunday school teachers Joe and loney Noble. And all of my church friends especially mr.Ralph and Ms Wayneen Clendenen, Rose Huffman and Sheila Cutting. We have a crazy president now name Donald Trump. I like him because he don't give a f*CK what anybody thinks about him, he just does what he thinks is right. I believe that's the way every real man should be. That man doesn't worry about no consequences, he reminds me of the people who grew up in our neighborhoods. He is a real good president. Anyway, I am a Wainwright and Wainwright's are built to last. I wish I was as street wise as Thomas was because, I was a fool to think everybody from our old gang was on the same page like me, he would have never cared so much like I do. Thomas was cold blooded. I guess being 12 years old when I joined Thomas and the Westside Crips gang back in 1972 as a baby Crip made me blind to a lot. Now I can see, and I know there was some good things that I learned from them, but there was some bad and the key to rise up above gangs is to keep the good and leave the bad, because I honestly and sincerely am grateful for all of my friends being strong young black men in a society where we grew up after generations of our father's being degraded and put down. I was proud to be a member of the Westside Crips. We were real young men. Rest in peace Angela. I'll do my best to take care of Lamont and Dont'e.
Post Statement: As an original baby Westside Crip and a young black American boy who grew up on the Eastside of Los Angeles California up until 1968. I can tell you this about the words. " Blood and Cuzz". The street gangs terminology that has been passed down since 1968. Blood means brother and Cuzz means cousin. The black Panthers came to LA and brought the term blood to our communities with them. Tooky and the older teenagers who I grew up following called each other Cuzz as in short for cousin. Those words are all about black people sticking together like family. Sincerely Gilbert Wainwright October 4th 2025.
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